This is from Ann Landers’, Wake Up and Smell The Coffee, (New York: Villard, 1996).
"The perfect man met the perfect woman, and they got married. One Christmas Eve, they were driving down the
highway and noticed a man stranded by the side of the road. This was no ordinary man. It was Santa Claus! Being the perfect
people they were, they offered Santa a ride because he was in a hurry to get his toys delivered. Alas, the roads were slippery,
and there was a terrible car crash. Two of the three people were killed. Do you know who survived? The perfect woman. Everyone
knows Santa Claus and the perfect man don't really exist."
I desire . . . also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation,
not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good
works. (1 Timothy 2:9-10 NKJV)
In a past article I talked about liking yourself. How can we expect anyone to like us if we don’t like
ourselves. I’ve been writing about men and their power. This time I want to address the ladies and their power. Many
do not comprehend just how powerful they are. In her book, Men Made Easy, Kara Oh immediately addresses what she calls
Feminine Grace.
There are several points that she brings out that are part of Feminine Grace. She starts out with this question, "Who’s ecstatic to be a woman?" As she expected,
not much enthusiasm there, it’s a new idea, but, if you’re going to get into gear and create beautiful relationships
and become magnificent, happy, empowered women, you must learn to be out-of-this-world in love with being women.
"When you love being a woman: First, you’re totally and completely comfortable
with yourself, which makes . . . everyone else––feel comfortable."
"Second, you’re in touch with your creativity and love of beauty and enjoy expressing it."
"Third, you’re comfortable with your femininity and allow it to flow through you. But you don’t
flaunt it; you do it with grace and style. You love that part of yourself because it’s an expression of who you are.
When you’re comfortable with your femininity others can tell."
"Fourth, you’re beautiful, no matter what God gave you, because you glow from within. That kind of beauty
has nothing to do with what’s in fashion magazines, it comes from being happy."
"You’ve all met this kind of woman. She’s often not an outstanding beauty, but…she’s
comfortable with who she is, she has style, and it’s obvious she likes herself. She’s the woman men are hovering
around at a party. And women like her too. This way of being is what she calls
Feminine Grace.
"
"Any time you’re expressing your femininity and feeling good to be a woman, you’re in a
state of
Feminine Grace. That’s when you’re the most magnetic, the most beautiful, the most joyful and loving, and the most self-confident.
It’s when you feel great about being you. And you relish your individuality. You can choose to be unhappy about being
a woman or you can be ecstatic. Either choice will color every aspect of your life. But a woman with Feminine Grace is the most powerful kind of woman there is."
A woman with Feminine Grace will
find that her husband/boy friend cannot help but respond to her in a positive manner. "Which would you prefer?"
